Dating Super Thread

I wish someone had told me this as a young man, would have saved me a lot of time & money.

How to vet for & marry a high quality girl.
1. No sex before marriage.
2. On the 3months mark: Break up or propose.
3. Ask your respected, married mutuals to match make you.

This lends years of trust & credibility right into the beginning of the relationship.
And as long as you don’t have sex, & don’t draw things out longer than 3months, then there will be no awkwardness for your mutuals if things don’t work out.

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“Thrashing out the details” is the principal work of dating.

Work expands as to fill the time allotted for it. – Parkinson’s law.

Set yourself a deadline of 3 months and get to work!


Figure out your Masculine Role to the world:

Kings like to Govern ppl & value.
Bravos like to Gather & Ground ppl.
Deltas like to Grow & Guard value.
Sigmas like to Guide & Goad ppl.

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Figuring out our Masculine Role will do 2 things:
1. It will let you focus on building status at the things God designed you to do.
You’ll have more momentum in life playing to the strengths of your role, & therefore access to higher sexual-market-value (smv) women…

And 2. It will help you filter for which feminine archetypes best suit your Masculine Role:
The Princess.
The Popular Helpmeet.
The Busybody.
The Resilient Helpmeet.

The King will want to marry a Princess archetype.
He’s going to be supremely busy, so he needs a woman who is comfortable with the burden of rule: Optics, Power Politcs, Loyalty, Guarding his Honor.

The Bravo will want to marry a Popular Helpmeet.
He’s going to be the popular guy with big ideas, lots of highs & lows, so he needs a woman who’s comfortable with going on the rollercoaster with him, hosting all his friends, being positive when he is down.

The Delta will want to marry a Busybody.
He’s going to be the steady guy who goes about his work with duty+mastery, so he needs a woman who will value the security he provides, be competent & decisive, & take initiative for her own time & duties while her husband is working.

The Sigma will want to marry a Resilient Helpmeet.
He’s going to be the solitary guy with big ideas, lots of highs & lows, so he needs a woman who’s comfy with going on the rollercoaster with him, not wavered by ridicule or rejection, being positive when he is down.

My wife & I match archetypes, which makes things easy.
But any archetype mismatched marriages can still work through biblical masculine & feminine submission, it will just take more time & humility to understand each other.


Serving women is not a man’s life purpose.

It’s ok to say no to women.

You don’t need a girl.
You need a mission.

Thankfully I stumbled across the manosphere before I met my wife.
If I were still a blue pill beta, she’d be forced into the masculine role, I’d be her helpmeet & we’d end up resenting each other.

No amount of archetype matching can make up for a feminized man.


2 thoughts on “Dating Super Thread

  1. This is brilliant Scott! You should consider turning this information into a talk / conference for teenagers / young men…

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